Bullying is a big issue in today's society. I guess it was in the past but we didn't understand the long term implications. There are bullies (who are actually also victims in many ways of prior poor socialization) and there are victims (The ones that disturb their sense of superiority). We have responsibilities to hold bullies accountable to higher standards and ensure that we don't gloss over their behaviors. Sometimes that is forcing them to deal with issues and other times it might be protective boundaries.
I was walking out of a CVS and a few ladies hit me up for a donation. I said that I would post this for them and perhaps make a few comments. Consider donating so as to create resources in our communities. Early intervention for both the bullies and the victims is important.
Let me say that bullies don't always grow up. I have met a few bullies that did grow up from childhood but those networks (i.e. "super cool") are likely to be bullies much of their lives. They lack accountability and in embed themselves in distorted networks that coordinate their projection of inadequacies onto others through group aggressions and ostracization (In a case I'm familiar with, these groups cling to their mediocre sports identities and networks decades after they have become irrelevant. Most were average players and never played college sports or were professional. Its a distortion of identity desperately clinging to something to make them feel special/"entitled".)
Bullies lack the ability to step back from themselves and turn on the light so as to see themselves more clearly. Feeling (and in some cases being) inadequate is difficult for people to handle because we are dealing with the inability to create enough insight (dispersed neural networks) to have self-reflection and find steps to their own improvement (We can use a sort of mental control group of the opposite where higher skill sets and intelligence are found. Research Empathy and Gifted).
Without intervening when they are young bullies will carry those distorted values and aggressions into later life (Its sad and I wish in many ways they would seek the help they need. Few can have heightened levels of aggression without other problems). Some of these now adults encourage/socialize their own children to be bullies and in turn as adults don't have boundaries of bullying other's kids (I have seen adults involve and damage kids for financial and personal/social gain. Some have complained that these now bully adults have become coaches that only play the kids they like, get upset at those kids still learning and are condescending to those who make mistakes. I can't say if that is true but I have heard it is so from I believe 2-3 different people who had kids in sports programs. For some it is a pattern of thinking and this is why the culture of sporting should focus on health, learning, positive socialization, and development. You can win a kid's game or you can help kids win for a lifetime. I believe most of the coaches are doing the right thing and a positive contribution to children but bad coaches are bad coaches.). While these behaviors may be immoral (...and in some places illegal. Depending on the integrity, insight, and ability of the system.) they are often not followed up on leaving the most ignorant of society a free hand to repeat prior poor behaviors to different people throughout their lives (not in all cases. Some do gain insight.).
While I'm not involved with this organization (They seem legit to me!) I can say I agree with what they are doing and want to share......
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