Tuesday, March 22, 2022

Why You Can't Fix Hate. Rooted Deep in Social Networks

Over the last few years I have seen the dark power of hate and distortion. The ability to say what you want and exploit differences in a way that leads to potential serious harm. In many cases, it doesn't take much to get people to explode out in rage and coordinate efforts to harm a family. It could be based in something as simple as a lie or as dark as undiagnosed mental health disorders. No matter its root these problems brew under the surface and don't seem to have much of a solution. Larger group manipulation indicates the initiators feel they can do no wrong and can exploit their social connections (They seem to understand how to create a story, share that story, and exploit existing bigotries.)

Let me first make a distinction between hate and a mistake. Sometimes people get upset based upon their own personal weaknesses and emotionally lash out. After they are calm they might reach out and apologize (ok...that is probably very very rare. You would have to be an amazing person.) or they at least make small gestures to rectify the situation. Hate is different, it is an irrational attempt to harm others for the distorted self-image of entitlement one carries. It can't and often won't stop until the initiators see themselves in a truer light (You can't just tell them who they are and where their distortion comes from because they have a lifetime of ego protections to ensure they never become aware...also why they are unlikely to feel remorse. They must dig into who they are as a person to find that pain.)

No issue. We have come across people in our lives all the time that don't seem quit right and are suffering from various issues (They may be civil to some people and sadistic to others where they don't feel they compare.). Most of those people do not lash out or they catch themselves and people just sort of stay away from them. However, when we move into lashing out and coordinating a large group of hate supporters based on blind loyalty and racist/bigoted values someone has effectively threw a match on a gasoline depot that was just waiting to go up in flames already (Appeared intentional.)

What we find after all of this time is that most people over the years and through familiarity with the targets have begun to reject the false narrative and rhetoric (Making efforts to reconnect as a community.) The initiating group may feel no remorse and their closest supporters are afraid to reach across the mental iron curtain in fear of being rejected by the core hate initiators. The truth of the situation means little and our values are often discounted in convenience (Most of us just talk about values such as integrity, but when it comes down to it we dump it for personal gain.). Of course there are also those few who are mentally blocked off and you can sort of tell from their body language they really don't like you or want you around (As you still scratch your head wondering what all the fuss is about? As far as I know me and my family haven't don't anything to anyone. We have been on the receiving end. ðŸ¤· ðŸ¤”)

I can only conclude that hate is deep and its dark. People can be easily mislead into believing all types of false and unfair things about others. Once hate is socially confirmed through false shared sense of identity (i.e. sports identity in this case) it is very hard to break through the cultish/clannish narrative (the one that makes them believe they are different and better than the rest of the world). Over time I suspect more people will peel away from this hate based value system but it will take a long long time (They need familiarity and then need the rhetoric to decline). Yet there will always be risks of flare ups that can derail that process through rudeness and passive aggressive anger by ego driving small person syndrome (i.e. micro aggressions by hate sympathizers.).  As for the core group and their dark supporters....it is unlikely anything will change for them....they should have known better before it happened (They aren't the smartest people in town...they just seem the rudest...and perhaps the most self-consumed. Maybe not, maybe there is more? 🤷). Time answers all questions. 

I will continue to positively engage and go where I want without fear as I believe in certain American values and have belief/value/spiritual systems that prompt me to stand up for certain values (That doesn't mean I'm a perfect person or that I don't have faults. I haven't met a perfect person yet. However, I have met good souls and dark souls as well as tormented souls and have come to recognize the difference.). I do understand that many of those within the hate network are afraid to anger their group (testimony to weaker values) but there have been many who are reaching across the divide (A testimony to their positive values). Those who might just hate me (or my kids) would need to have a reason for it (..meaning there would need to have been a negative interaction and I don't remember having a problem with anyone.) or otherwise they seem to be masking their darker belief systems and deep seated fear of a world changing around them.


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