The Deeper Meaning of Language Choice

The words we use determine the way we think. It is reflective of how we are raised and how we see the world. Negative words are a reflection of negative thoughts. While we are not always aware of it the way in which we communicate, matched with our non-verbal cues, tells us a lot about people around us and how they see the world. If you want to know someone well then you should simply listen and ask a few questions to clarity.

Most of us never really take much effort in listening to other people or understanding what they need and want. We simply listen to the socially acceptable terms in which they express their needs. What we don't see is the thoughts, feelings, and beliefs that often make up those communication patterns.

It should be noted that all language and words are symbols that are created from other people. As we socialize with others in our youths we learn the basic meaning of certain words and our neuro thought patterns are created. We add onto that understanding throughout our lives but very few of us actually change the general patterns of what we are thinking.

The words (or better expressed as picture symbols) we choose and the way in which we construct our sentence tell us how we "envision" the world and way in which we construct those symbols to tell our own person story. Language thus has significant more depth to it then what we originally perceive.

It is also helpful to view the facial expressions, body posture, and the overall unconscious "language" people display when they think and talk about certain topics. Their emotional state determines how important the topic is to them and what they "feel" about such such topics. The emotional state becomes part of the deeply embedded history of the individual.

When we have the word (symbols) choices, the construction of how those symbols are connected together, and the emotional state associated with those symbols we may want to look at patterns of interest. Understanding what someone talks about a lot tells us where their focus is and their potential intentions toward certain objects and people (can be positive or negative).

Tempo of the language indicates how fast the brain is processing information and the overall excitement level of the person. If they are moving fast, calculating fast, and making proper associations between different concepts they are in the process of brainstorming and new discovery. Their tempo indicates an engaged mental process.

The next time you have a conversation with someone think about these language aspects to gain a better understanding of their meaning.

1. Words and their Symbols: What is the meaning of the words and how they use them to represent certain images, values, beliefs, and things.

2. Subconscious Language: The "hidden" or "honest" language that most people can't hide that shows emotions and values.

3. Construction of Sentences: The emphasis of value and the way in which symbols are connected to display larger ideas.

4. Tempo of Language: The excitability and interest of the person. It can also indicate the amount of mental engagement a person has.